out for the night, just had a few thoughts to post. On Dr. Phil today (I need help!!!!) he had girls "Desperate to Get Married." A couple of the chicks were really cute, in their twenties, and clearly they are going to get married. But they were just so worried that they weren't. There were a lot of interesting points for a single guy such as myself to ponder. The main point, I think, and this is a maturity thing, is to ask yourself "Do you want to be married just to be married or just so you're no longer single?" That is the wrong reason. There were all the regular cliches you always hear. Find happiness in your own life. Be yourself. It's better to be happy and alone than married and miserable. How true though. Don't appear desperate, but on the other hand, you have to make yourself available to meet people. I have a couple of friends who almost never go anywhere. The main thing is to find happiness in whatever state you are in. It's a challenge, but the happiest people in the world can find contentment whatever their situation. Not that you settle for something, but be happy where you are, even while you may be striving to achieve something more. There are advantages to marriage, just as there are advantages to being single. Emphasize the good about your own personal situation. Chances are, there's a lot of good, if you just look. The grass is always greener on the other side, until you realize there's manure in that pasture, too. Wow, that's deep. LOL
If you look back on your failed relationships, they all have one common denominator--you. Be willing to accept some of the blame. Look at what you could've done better. If there are mistakes you can see you made, make a conscious effort to correct them. Granted there will occasionally be cases when we do all we can do, and something still doesn't work. You just have to accept that some people are generally sorry people and be glad you found out before you went too far. Don't let it drag you down, and don't dwell on it. Nothing will scare a guy off faster than a girl talking about getting married and how she never thinks she will. That immediately throws up a flag that something must be wrong. If you have questions or would like my advice, give me an email--the voice of single people everywhere. LOL
Changing thoughts... one thing I hate is drifting away from people... maybe a friend, family member, or someone you dated. I guess it's inevitable, but I don't like it. I'm sure we can all look back on our lives and see people who were such a big part of our life, six months ago, a year ago, or five years ago, and now we rarely or never talk to them. Well, I said it's inevitable. Some of it is. But a lot of times, both parties just stop making the effort. Sad. Alright, that's all for now. May your weekend be filled with interesting blog entries.
"Don't need nothin' but a good time. How can I resist? Ain't lookin' for nothin' but a good time. And it don't get better than this..."