Reason #38 I can't get into soccer: "France and Switzerland played to a scoreless tie." (Heard on sports radio yesterday.) Sounds scintillating. Wish I had TiVo'd that one. Or, just wish I had TiVo. If I want something that just drags on and on and no one ever scores... well... nevermind. On with today's post...
I make the following statement having demonstrated an unblemished lifelong pattern of staunch heterosexual behavior... It's not easy to meet nice guys.
As I have gotten older, my number of single friends has dwindled. Some have gotten married. Some have moved away. Some just started freakin' me out.
As this has occurred, I have noticed that there haven't been many new friends to replace the departed. So that now I'm left with only a handful of good, single, male friends.
Thus leaving me with predicaments such as the one I faced this past weekend. I wanted to go to Cincinnati to see the Reds play. I had the weekend off. I figured, why not. Of the couple of friends I have who actually like sports and might go on such a road trip, one had to work Saturday night, and the other was helping his girlfriend move a couch.
Sure there were girls I could have asked. And girls are great to hang out with. I think every guy needs at least one girl in his life who is just a really good, close friend. The problem is, at least with the single girls in my life, many have an interest in being more than friends. I tend to shy away from such interaction to avoid possible awkward situations. Bascially, I'm horrible at saying no.
And if I approach a girl, ask for her number, and tell her I just want to be friends. Well, that sounds like a line. So now I'm back to trying to meet guys. Except, at my age, it isn't easy to meet new guys to hang out with.
Once you reach a certain age, it seems to me the friends you have are pretty much the ones you're stuck with from here on out. Once you're out of college, there aren't that many places to meet new people. Or at least, to do so requires a lot more effort. This can be a bit of a problem for the thirtysomething, but still virile, bachelor.
I suppose the most common place to meet new friends post-campus is on the job. But everyone I work with is either still in college or well over forty and married. So we don't hang out that much outside of the workplace.
Other common places for meeting people are bars and clubs. I don't know about any of my male readers, but I'm not really comfortable going up to a guy in a club and asking for his number.
It's easy to strike up a conversation with a guy while watching the game on TV. But once the game is over, that brief friendship is over as well. We've all been around that guy in the bar who is a little too clingy. A little too chatty during the game. Nobody wants to be that guy. I can only imagine if he asked me to hang out later. Freaky!
Also, what if I meet a gay guy? Then I have to wonder whether he wants to be more than friends. As you ladies know, there's nothing more uncomfortable than having to tell a guy you're not interested in him romantically. Besides, as I said, I have a hard time saying no.
Last night while I was running the track, I passed a guy on my first lap who looked to be in his late 30's. As I got about a quarter of the way around my second lap (it's a 1.5 mile track), I hear footsteps behind me. I turn around and see this guy has picked up his pace and is now following me at about 15 yards.
Then, as I get about halfway thru that lap, he jogs up beside me and strikes up a conversation.
"How many laps you running?"
"Just two tonight."
"Oh. Me, too... what lap are you on?"
"This is my second."
"It's not too hot at night."
"No, this is good."
And he jogs on ahead.
OK, this is very odd. I've never had a guy say more than a passing "hey" to me on the track. As I near the end of my lap, I see he has completed his run and is standing on the side of the trail with his hands on his knees, recovering. And I have to run a ways past him to get to where I parked.
I wonder should I say anything? Will he say anything? Was he just being friendly? Or did he want to hang out later? What's the etiquette here? Will it be rude if I don't speak as I go by?
As I approach him, he raises his head as if he is going to say something. But he doesn't. So as I pass by I say, "Take it easy." He doesn't respond.
Why did I say that? Why! Take it easy. Take it easy. Duh! What does that even mean anyway? How could I be so stupid? He wasn't interested. He was just being friendly. And even if he was, who would want to hang out with someone who's best guy-to-guy pick-up line is "Take it easy?"
Sometimes I wonder if I'm ever gonna meet a nice guy.
"I'm runnin' down the road tryin' to loosen my load. I got seven women on my mind..."