Dad is having his heart bypass surgery today. I'm blogging from the waiting room. The doctor just came out and talked to us. He said they'd begin surgery around 8:00 and that it normally takes about three and a half hours.
To backtrack a bit, the surgery was postponed two different times. Dad was in the hospital five days with viral pneumonia. Then he had an issue with low blood pressure, which left him very lethargic for a few days. But lately, he's been doing much better and getting stronger.
With the postponements, it was easier to remain distracted and keep my mind on other things for a couple of weeks. But yesterday and this morning... I've never been this nervous in my life.
Seeing Dad just before they took him back this morning was hard. I started to tear up but caught myself. On the other hand, he seemed pretty relaxed considering. I told him I loved him and he promised to give me guitar lessons when he gets out.
Now we're just waiting. Watching the clock. Thinking good thoughts. Talking about everything but. And saying little silent prayers.
Updates...2:05 PM - We just got back to see Dad for a moment. The doctor came out about 1:30 and talked to us. He said they did a triple bypass and everything went as expected.
Our next ICU visit is 4:30. They said he might be awake by then. Thank you all for your comments and prayers.
5:16 PM - Dad opened his eyes during our 4:30 visit. He's still on the ventilator, but mouthed "What time is it" and "I love you" in that order. I told him "four-thirty" and "I love you, too." Our last visit of the day is at 8:30.
8:10 PM - Navigating these halls reminds me of world 8-4 on Super Mario Brothers. One wrong turn and you can wind up right back where you started. I just hope I don't run into a giant monster with a spike head spitting fire balls. I can't jump very high.
9:04 PM - Dad was off the ventilator when we went in this time. His blood pressure was a tad low, so they're giving him something for that. They're also giving him insulin, which they said is normal. He looks much better than he did earlier. The first visit tomorrow morning is at 10:30.
Today has pretty much run the gamut of emotions. Worry, fear, hope, reflection, relief, joy, sadness, love. It's been a long day. But a good day. I'm so very thankful.
Day Two... 11:35 AM - Dad got out of ICU shortly before 10:00 this morning. He's in a private room now in the cardiac progressive care unit. I'm not sure if that's the official name, but I think it's an accurate description. He's in a lot of pain, which I'm pretty sure is just part of it. They brought him some morphine and now he seems quite relaxed.
12:41 PM - Lunch! Dad is having broth, yellow jello, and grape juice. I think I'll venture down to the cafeteria.
2:12 PM - Two of my cousins stopped by, along with my
aunt who always sends me ten dollars. As they were leaving, I was hugging my aunt and she put something in my hand... You guessed it.
4:42 PM - They got Dad up around 3:00 to walk. He walked half a lap around the unit. It was a struggle for him. Though he did say when a patient who was obviously on his third or fourth day zoomed past him, "Why is he going so much faster than me?"
By the day he leaves the hospital, he's supposed to be up to 38 laps, which equals two miles. So, small steps right now.
Thank you again for the comments. In addition to helping me pass the time, each one is a little boost of encouragement.
Day Three...Thursday6:33 PM - Dad has had a rough day. He's felt nauseous all day and has hardly eaten anything. He was supposed to walk seven laps today, but has only managed four so far. They're doing tests to try and figure out what's causing the nausea. He is miserable. Today feels like a bit of a setback. I hope tomorrow is better.
Day Four...Friday9:22 AM - Dad has already walked eight laps this morning! His nausea has subsided a bit. I had a bad dream last night about him, so it was nice to wake up to some good news. The surgeon said if he keeps improving he could go home as early as tomorrow?? So, cautious optimism right now.
5:46 PM - We're up to eighteen laps today. Well, I say we. I've actually only walked one. I worked a full day today and yesterday and have been coming over in the afternoons. Dad is now officially IV and tube free. He's doing great, though I have a feeling he totally didn't get my Doctor Van Nostrand reference just now.
Day Five... Saturday5:01 PM - Dad didn't get to go home today. His oxygen level was low last night and this morning, so they're keeping him another day. He seems to be feeling pretty good, though. Maybe tomorrow.
Day Six... Sunday6:37 PM - Dad is home from the hospital. He was discharged early this afternoon. And though he still has a lot of recovery and rehab to go, it feels like another major hurdle has been cleared.
Thank you all so much for your continued thoughts and prayers. I believe with all my heart that they were answered. And I will always remember your support and words of encouragement.
This will conclude the Open Heart Surgery Live Blog Experience.
Labels: dad, family, health
My prayers for your dad....
Hugs!
Please remember to take care of yourself in all of this, too. It's OK to cry. It's OK to lean on other people sometimes. It's OK to be scared.
You have people who care about you to turn to.
I have a feeling both you and your Dad are going to come out of this all the better. Him, with a stronger heart. You, with a stronger sense of your own strength. And the two of you, with a renewed determination to make the most of your relationship. Buy yourself some guitar picks on the way home tonight. :)
Big hug from Texas!
Today is truly the first day of your father's new life
(Even if you did make me get misty-eyed.)
one for each bypass. OK, so there are a lot more... You're going in to see him again in two minutes.... Smile big. I'm smiling big for you. Oh yeah, you can breathe now!
And yes, videos of the guitar lessons, please.
I have been praying for you, your father and your entire family
I think you will have many more years to say that to each other but somehow in the frenzy of day to day life we forget.
I know you won't Bone. For some reason I thought you were great at navigating difficult places. I still think you are
I know you know what's important in life and in the scheme of things 3WW isn't. Though I love it, I can miss a week
But i know you Bone so I can't decide whether to bet with myself that you will have the words or not :)
My grandmother lived almost twenty-five years after her bypass surgery, from 65, until she died at 89. Modern medicine is a miracle.
Best withes to you and your family, Bone.
im glad everything is fine and the surgery went as expected :)
my best wishes to u and ur family...
and heres wishing ur dad a speedy recovery :)
gear up for the guitar classes now!! :D
take care and god bless,
pri
Hugs,
Jane
Hope your dad gets well soon.
Prayers for your dad!
hope you r fine too.
I'm assuming that you're aware now - if you weren't prior to your little excursion to the cafeteria - that the food they serve there is generally the same thing they serve to the patients? Yeah... :)
Glad to hear that the pain meds are helping your Dad get some comfort... and that seeming him out of surgery is giving you some comfort.
3WW is on. Not as efficiently as Bone does it. But few people are, and I fall into the super ditz category especially on the fifth day of rain
But I would like to say that it appears that you're now just showing off... linking to old posts from the Crackberry! Uff da ;)
(Seriously, it's good to see you cracking small jokes and doing anal-retentive blog stuff: that means you're feeling better about the whole situation.)
Keeping your dad in mind and wishing him a healthy and steady recovery : )
GO DAD!!!!
Your dad sounds like he's doing great. I know it sucks to be hanging around a hospital all day, but hey, you made ten bucks!
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
My father had bypass surgery back in June 2007 but I wasn't there when he did so it's nice that you're able to be there for your dad. My dad was in for 5 days and he did his 45 laps around the hospital floor just to prove that he was good to go.
Couple things to note for when your dad gets out of the hospital (according to my dad):
1) if your dad's supposed to go to rehab and the insurance will pay for it, do it. It's a big help and he'll heal easier.
2) in addition to his rehab, he should get used to taking daily walks. initially, the walks will be short, but should increase incrimentally (sp?) over time.
3) the doctor will probably tell him this, but under no circumstances should your dad drive himself anywhere until the doctor gives him the okay. My dad was told not to drive for at least a month but one day he was feeling pretty good and decided he would try. He was okay until he had to turn the steering wheel and that's when he almost passed out from the pain.
One thing to keep in mind also is that the breast bone gets cracked when they do surgery and it takes some time to heal. And we don't realize how much we use those pectoral muscles for things. So picking up a gallon of milk might be difficult.
I think your dad is a lot younger than mine though (mine is 66) so he might not have as long a recuperation time as my dad.
And now that I've hijacked your comments, I'll just reiterate what I said earlier in that I'll send good vibes to your dad and your family.
I hope your hospital food was not too bad...and you'll know your dad is much better when he asks you to sneak him in some food from the outside.
that's so funny about your aunt. They aren't checks from the Chemical Bank are they?
Take care,
ZZ
No worries.. He'll be running his laps before you know it..
Know that's a Seinfeld thing, and I did look, for complete seasons at Wal Mart so I can know almost as much about my hood as you two--but all they had was Raymond and...
I do find that so sweet about Bone's aunt
And I hope your Dad gets red jello or something tomorrow
Know he feels embraced by all the love and that is the best healer
HUGS....Glad your dad is up and walking -- and being observant of those walking around him.
I so wish I could help you :)
Four laps is better than none--small steps. You said that.
Each step is a little victory, but I know you're feeling tormented and you have a right to feel that way
We will send out the positive vibes for you--and so many people are praying and caring and hoping....
I know well about the bad dreams... seems like when I'm stressed or anxious about something, it affects me waking or asleep. Try thinking about some of the things you really enjoy doing: running, watching Seinfeld reruns, playing billiards, golfing, etc., and make at least 30 minutes a day to do that. I know it's tempting to be there as much as you can... but he needs you to keep yourself on top of your game just as much.
*hugs* Ya'll are doing just fine, and things will get easier.
You have had a horrid past six months--bad dreams are part of the deal
And your Dad doesn't want you checking into the hospital after he checks out. Especially since he won't be able to visit you.
Vitamins. You need vitamins since I'm pretty sure you might not be eating as healthily as you were nor are you running
Take TC's advice and wath an hour of Seinfeld before going to sleep
People give presents in multiples of 18 to help ensure the recipient and I guess themselves luck.
I know how you love numbers, so...
Glad to hear he's doing well.
I'll hollar at you a little later.
It's OK that he didn't get the reference... you and he are still going to have plenty of differnces - but also plenty of time to teach each other your own weir--- er, uniquenesses O:)
Glad that things are looking up...perhaps the nausea was caused from too many laps the day before. I know when my MIL had surgery they tried to get her out of bed that same day and she barfed all over the aids. way to go mom! hee hee
In hospitals zeal to get patients moving--and to satisfy insurance companies and Medicare, not that I'm cynical or anything--they forget that each individual patient has his own timetable
I filled out too many "progress" reports that weren't
Bone's father needed that extra day of rest and his body rebelled.
But uh, where's today's progress report?
Inquiring and compassionate minds need to know because Bone you have taken us into your father's world, and yours, and I thank you for that. And really need to know what's happening today.
I hope that you have taken him home and have forgotten all about that crackberry
This is one great, ever evolving live blogging post that I will always remember.
I said in 3WW that you have taken blogging to new heights or something like that
I didn't realize then that you have begun an entire new blogging genre
Glad to hear that he's still feeling jovial. That's awesome. Positive thinking will do him a world of good.
Thanks for keeping us updated: we're all pulling for him. :)
I bet you feel quite some relief just to have the surgery over with. Sounds like he's doing really wonderfully and just going through the normal ups and downs that must come with such an invasive operation.
I'm glad to hear that you're sounding pretty relaxed. I'd never be as calm as you in this sort of situation.
Keep us informed.
<3
is something :)
I know your Dad muct be very proud of you, but if he ever read this, or when he does, he will be overjoyed
It's a rare child who is so there --not just physically--but in every sense, for his parent
There will be some set backs probably but he's on the road....
signed: a former nursing home worker
Probably because I see this as a second chance for you and your Dad. The end of your old way of doing things - and the start of the new way. Helping him rewrite those lyrics. Taking the time to learn guitar. Just being there. Loving life - and each other.
And you know, feeling fine that this major hurdle has passed isn't a bad thing. Not a bad thing at all. In fact, I think it's safe to say it's a very, very good thing.
So take some time to feel fine ... and appreciate this new time and new life. The end of one chapters often starts the beginning of an even better one. And that's what I think is going to happen for you two.
Warm wishes to a speedy full recovery in the more pleasant environment of home sweet home.
It's so many days later, that the emotions are kicking in.
Big hugs from here.
Take care!
Cindy